Letting Go...when do you know it's time to let go better yet, how do you let go? What do you do when you know someone that you've considered a close friend no longer wishes to be your friend? How does one handle this situation? Do you send an e-mail, snail mail, call them on the phone or just ignore it until the pain goes away??? This is a friendship nothing romantic...the romantic endings I know how to handle...I let them go.
I don't even know where it all went wrong. I know something that may have triggered a little uncomfort but to me if a true friendship it was totally manageable. Maybe I was just a bandaid until whatever this person was looking for was found then I would no longer be needed. I don't have an answer I just know everytime I run into this person it hurts...I don't like sadness and it seems to be hitting me hard this year. Maybe this is part of the change/transition I have to deal with and I'm not real sure how to. All I know is I want this pain to stop. It's on my mind way too much and honestly, I don't have space for this not so great energy...
Sorry, I just had to get this off my chest.
9 comments:
Katie, I feel your pain. It's hard to let go of friendships. my dearest friend, someone I considered a lifetime friend, pushed me out of her life. but then let me back in, then pushed me out again. you just can't take it personally. I have no idea what I did wrong, and yes that is hurtful. I truly have no hard feelings and would love to talk if our paths crossed. but yes it's hurtful.
what do you do? you try. that's all you can do. but if they don't want to talk to you, then you leave it alone. at least you don't go the rest of your life wondering if things would be different had you made an attempt.
hope this helps.
I have been the one to be let go, and I have also been the one to do the letting go. It is hard.
I would love to grab a glass of wine sometime soon and talk sometime soon!
And I would love it if I would learn how to write and didn't repeat myself so damn much...sorry ;-)
It has always struck me as interesting that society has come up with myriad ways to terminate most types of relationships. We can break up with bf/gf's, we can divorce spouses, we can terminate employment relationships, we can even disown family, but "just friends" have no socially accepted way of ending a relationship. At least not that I know of.
Sucks.
My advice is to just be perfectly honest with your friend no matter what you have to do to do that. For me, it is writing down my feelings (so email works for me or a letter). Once you have gotten it all out, it seems a lot easier to let go. Or you might find that just sharing your feelings will help smooth things over with your friend.
And if you need someone to talk to about it, I am always here for you!
As silly as it may sound, sometimes just ridding yourself of things that remind you of your former friend is extremely helpful. I had a similar thing several years ago, and I literally removed every item from my life that reminded me of my friend. Occasionally I'll think "I wish I still had a picture because I forgot what they look like", but then I realize, even years later, it will just conjure up hurt that I don't need. Good luck with your situation. It will get better.
Thanks for the support!
Y'all have no idea how much y'all have helped. I was starting to think I was the evil lone ranger;)
yeah....it stinks but a one sided friendship is not a friend ship at all. Kris and I just had this conversation last month.
I just went throught this a couple months ago with my best friend. She attempted to make contact but I did not reply.....I feel bad now but am not ready to allow her back in my life.
We are all here for ya lady......good luck.
Ok, so a bad but innocent joke, hqve you also let go of this blog? I love reading your posts. Surely theres some story you can type up so i can laugh?!?!
: )
Luv ya!
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